Blessings and prayers

It's no secret....... I am head over heels totally in love with this man who is soon to be my husband. I talk to God daily about Bass............... thanking Him for the blessing of this man and his love in my life and praying that I will be the best partner and helpmate to him that I can be. That is so hard when someone else tries to sabotage all of your best efforts.... even at the expense of Bass's health and the happiness of innocent children. How can a mom use and manipulate her children simple to "get even" for something that she brought about with her own lies and manipulations? How could someone throw this wonderful man away to begin with? And why when she clearly no longer wanted him would she be angry that 3 years later someone else does? I try to pray for this person every day. Some days like today it is harder than others. How dare she call and add even more to his stress level when she knows he just got out of the hospital? How dare she refuse him access to his own children one minute and the next tell the children that he has chosen his "new family" over them? How can she be so deliberately hurtful one minute and then say she is doing it out of love the next?And how do I effectively pray for someone that I totally do not understand?